Insight of the Day69. When you smile at someone you are perhaps inviting him or her to feel acceptable, welcomed, appreciated, and warm. Many people would react to this behavior with these emotions. However, many other people would react to your invitation with suspicion, alarm, fear, and rejection. Since your behavior, of any kind, can elicit such varied reactions, it is easily understandable how you cannot claim responsibility for their emotional reaction. Your behavior can invite emotions. It cannot cause them.
(Feeling Your Way Along p59)